What is Love?

The other day I was talking to a friend of mine and he randomly asked me “What does it feel like being in love and how would I personally describe the feeling of it” and I had no answer for him and that got me thinking and looking back at past relationships where “I love you” was exchanged and I began to wonder if anyone truly knew what love meant. As I thought about this question and thought what love really meant and it became clear to me that today’s society doesn’t know what it means to love somebody and that’s because my generation as a whole doesn’t know what it means to love a person. And how could we with all the  music and everything that is being played out through the media. It’s all showing the same things lying, cheating, saying “I’m sorry baby I love you”, and taking the person back so they can do it all over again. That’s not love, that’s not being a ride or die, that’s just being flat out stupid! True enough there are times where you are in a relationship and a person cheats and the are truly sorry they will never do it again but most of the time that’s not the case. Most of the time people do things to see how much they can get away with because you allow them too. So as I was thinking about all of this I decided to actually look up what love meant and in the urban dictionary the first thing that popped up was “nature’s way of tricking people into reproducing” and for a moment I was taken back but then I slowly started to realize that if you replace nature with society it kind of makes sense (not that I agree with this concept of love) people will tell you they love you just to something from you. Never really meaning a word of what they say and once they get what they want or get tired of dealing with you they switch up so fast that it’s not funny. Sometimes in the process along this lines they slip up and things happen, not really intending for something like to happen but it does and some females decide to live with the choices that they have made and others decide to run away. So it happens I get it but somewhere down the lines of humanity we have lost the meaning of love and became more concern about sex. We’ve become confused to the fact that lust is not love and you can’t fake real feelings for a person. The truth will eventually comes out in one way or another, if it be from slipping up while with that person or just being tired of faking feelings for them. Faking love or should I say trying to pass your lust off as love can’t be kept up for long and when all the fun and hot steamy emotion that came in the beginning of the relationship fades away that’s when all the lies and cheating starts to come about. Then you’re left with few options, you either stick around hoping things will change and go back to the way they were before or admit the truth and move on with your life, but not many people will or can do that. But when you think about it we all know that’s not what love is so what really is love? Looking back at those relationships where “I love you” was exchanged I can say this, no I may not have been in love but yes  I felt a connection with that person at the time and was really happy to be with them. The more I think about this the more concepts of what love could be came to mind and the first idea that came to mind was being together through whatever comes your way, being a ride or die for that person. Then I quickly realize that sometimes being that ride or die can get you in the wrong situation or can leave you looking stupid when you’re with the wrong person. But then I thought that love was never giving up on “us”, always fighting for us and never turning your back on “us”. This was a better thought but at the same time it doesn’t work if the other person doesn’t want to make things work or is you keep bring up the past hurt and the past pain. But that’s when it hit me that love can be more than one concept more than one idea. Love can be both of these things and more, the more I thought and the more I debated about what love is it slowly started to ring a bell about what love was. The first thing that came to mind was that love is kind, and the more I thought more something else came to about love being true. I wondered where I had heard all of this before and I began to realize that love was many things that I already knew and was taught as a child. The things that stuck out the most that I can really remember love to be was patient and kind! So of course I had to figure out where I heard or possibly read this before. It came to me that I knew this from school and church and just through reading for myself “love is kind and patient, it doesn’t get jealous or boastful, proud, or rude. Love doesn’t demand its own way, it is not irritable and it keeps no record of being wronged. It doesn’t rejoice about injustice but rejoices when the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through ever circumstance” (1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 new living translation) it took me awhile to remember this but this is love no if ands or buts about it! There’s no way around it no matter how you want to word it that’s what love comes down it and what it’ll always will be. There’s no denying it because no matter how you try to word it, it always comes out the same. Our generation doesn’t know what love is because we haven’t been taught how to love or haven’t been shown how to love someone.  Instead we’ve been shown what the media wants us to think what love is and how we should be in relationships making us think that disloyalty and lack of trust is okay. We have become confused and lost our way to what a relationship should be and how it should feel, we have come to a point where lust has become the new way to say love. We should find fix the meaning of love and come back to the point where we know what love is. Knowing what love is should be apart of what media shows what we teach our children. To make a better tomorrow you have to start today, if you want to make the world a more loving place we have to know what love is then show it……….. 

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