Poor Heart……

What do you do when you know someone and things are going pretty well between the two of you and then things just stop out of the blue or the situation changes and now you have mixed feelings and emotions about a person. Like you feel like things should or could be better if things never changed or the sudden stop of whatever it was between the two of you never stopped for whatever reason that it did. But you also feel like when it stopped everything changed and nothing was the same(lol drake reference) but you can’t tell for sure if it’s still going to be the same as it was before or you have a totally different situation in front of you…….what if you decided to let your heart decide and even then you still can’t figure out how you should go about it, like do you put yourself in a situation where you could possibly get yourself hurt and looking stupid or it’s going to be back to the way it was before. 
How can you tell when you’re being paranoid or just cautious about getting hurt yet again, not knowing what someone’s intentions are is possibly the scariest thing that you can ever face no matter how good you think things are. Ill-willed intentions from one person and a willing person is a toxic mix. The kind of combinations that really messes with a persons thought process and ability to connect with people on that kind of level. How can you even approach a person with the feelings you’re facing and properly explain yourself when you don’t even know what’s going on and how you feel about it? How can it be cleared when you can’t even get a clear process in your own head.
Should you just let things flow and go as the please and deal with situations as they come about or should you man up or lady up and take the step towards figuring out what’s going on. Even the best of feelings can be wrong if they not shared. Knowing is the best thing even when it’s not what you want it to be, it’s still better than being led on by your own stubbornness and getting yourself into a situation where you hurt and feeling stupid when it could’ve all been avoided with a simple conversation that can make everything clear as day. But how do you go about starting that conversation when you really don’t know how you feel or if the other person is even feeling you like that and it’s really just all in your head. How can you avoid the embarrassment of putting yourself out there and it not even be as serious as you thought it was…….
Or could it just be you, could you be that kind of person that is just way to nice and ultimately taking advantage of or taken for granted…could it be that you’re expecting this to be a certain way because that’s how you are but they really not because the other person doesn’t have the same mindset as you do. You have this thing about you and you just care and feel too much too soon and the people that you give yourself to know this and use that against you and you just end up wondering why this always happen to you. How do you guard yourself for yourself? How can you not give that vibe off of “I care entirely too much” and still have the same experience without being taking advantage of…..

What makes things so difficult is not being able to separate feelings and facts getting to the root of all things with mixed emotions and 


Let’s Be Great Together

Have you ever had a friend that wasn’t the best at putting outfits together or even knowing what colors look good or what works for her skin tone? If you say yes, don’t worry we all have one of those kinds of friends. But what do you do when they ask you for your advice on something and they don’t listen to you anyway?? What do you say the next time they ask you “what do you think about this?” Do you give into the thought of they gonna do what they want anyway or do you still try to be a friend and try to help them be great? Because I know if the shoe was on the other foot I would want that friend to help me out all the way. I mean we all know that everything out here isn’t for everybody. And the saying just because it zips doesn’t mean it fits, which by all means is true! Things are meant to stretch out and expand but that doesn’t  mean you need to stuff and squeeze into them. And if you was a real friend of mine you’d tell me that what I was trying do was not okay and stop me from leaving the house and as a friend I’d do the same for you! It’s only right because first impressions are really important and if you go about doing and wearing things that you don’t feel comfortable in or think it doesn’t flatter you, well then you might be right! That’s where friends come in and  the opinions and advice of those friends matter. But what happens when that one friend is just too sensitive for the truth??? How do you go about telling that friend if something that is a little too harsh for their delicate being?  How do you tell them the truth without hurting their feelings or them thinking you are hating on them because they “look so good”? What could you possibly say to them to get them to realize what we are trying to get them to understand that we are only trying to help them be great! Just like you want to be great I want you to be great too, we are all in this thing together. You try, I try, we all try to get this thing right together but when I’m trying to help you don’t take it wrong or that I’m trying to hate on you because that’s not the case. Truthfully, in some cases, there is nothing for me to hate on! And that’s not trying to be mean or anything along those lines but really we are in two different leagues here! I just want us all to be great a what we do best. Don’t take my advice as hatred but as love