Let’s Be Great Together

Have you ever had a friend that wasn’t the best at putting outfits together or even knowing what colors look good or what works for her skin tone? If you say yes, don’t worry we all have one of those kinds of friends. But what do you do when they ask you for your advice on something and they don’t listen to you anyway?? What do you say the next time they ask you “what do you think about this?” Do you give into the thought of they gonna do what they want anyway or do you still try to be a friend and try to help them be great? Because I know if the shoe was on the other foot I would want that friend to help me out all the way. I mean we all know that everything out here isn’t for everybody. And the saying just because it zips doesn’t mean it fits, which by all means is true! Things are meant to stretch out and expand but that doesn’t  mean you need to stuff and squeeze into them. And if you was a real friend of mine you’d tell me that what I was trying do was not okay and stop me from leaving the house and as a friend I’d do the same for you! It’s only right because first impressions are really important and if you go about doing and wearing things that you don’t feel comfortable in or think it doesn’t flatter you, well then you might be right! That’s where friends come in and  the opinions and advice of those friends matter. But what happens when that one friend is just too sensitive for the truth??? How do you go about telling that friend if something that is a little too harsh for their delicate being?  How do you tell them the truth without hurting their feelings or them thinking you are hating on them because they “look so good”? What could you possibly say to them to get them to realize what we are trying to get them to understand that we are only trying to help them be great! Just like you want to be great I want you to be great too, we are all in this thing together. You try, I try, we all try to get this thing right together but when I’m trying to help you don’t take it wrong or that I’m trying to hate on you because that’s not the case. Truthfully, in some cases, there is nothing for me to hate on! And that’s not trying to be mean or anything along those lines but really we are in two different leagues here! I just want us all to be great a what we do best. Don’t take my advice as hatred but as love 

Early Life Crisis

I had this idea to start a blog a few days ago and I had absolutely no idea what it should be about, what to call it, or what sort of topics I would ever write about. But then it hit me, it didn’t matter what kinds of things it was as long it was of interest to me, after all this is my blog right? It’s only as hard as you make it, and todayI’m blogging about nothing per say just things that have been on my mind for some time now. I’m calling it an early life crisis, basically it’s being young and being stressed out about not having under control let alone knowing what is even going on. It’s no fun, its kind of sucks actually because you know you have time to get things together but you feel like you’re too old not to know where you’re going in life, or at least that’s how I feel. I been in school what seems like forever and it seems like I’m nowhere near close to having a degree, I’m a single mother to a 1 year boy that’s about as smart as a 4 year old, and I lost my job two months ago and I have been able to find anything since. I’m not a factory kind of person, I mean its good money but they barley have time to do anything other than eat and sleep. With my never ending quest for my degree and my son that’s not going to happen! In the mean time while all of that is happening there is the constant urge to still be young and go out and have fun. Being social is a job in itself, or maybe I’m just really bad with people, who knows. Maybe I’m the type of person that doesn’t really care for going out but likes to do things for time to time. I know that I don’t care for the club or concerts because I hate crowded places, so you won’t see me in the club every weekend trying to get in free before 11.  But then there’s dating, and that…..that is just difficult. I mean there’s a  lot to it you have to find someone, find common interest, get to know them, spend time together and then even then sometimes it works out and sometimes it does. In my case it doesn’t and that’s not okay because what’s the point of spending all that time together just for it not to work out??? Sure it’s a “learning experience” and I get that but at the same time it’s like that time I could have put towards other things or trying to get things in a  better place for myself and give myself some much needed mommy time. Why can’t there just be a way to know if that person is worth my time or not maybe sometime app to search up their name and come across the results in the palm of my hand. It’ll go something like “yeah girl, he’s a keeper” or “run far far away girl he’s no good”. So simple and so easy and no time wasted! Sadly that is not how it works, you just have to go out on the limp and hope for the best.